We've reached a huge milestone this past week in a certain 2-year-old's development...he finally made his first "deposit" into the toilet rather than his pants!! I finally understand why my mom took that photo in my baby book of me with my pants around my ankles, proudly pointing at the potty chair. I photographed every moment of this big day too, although I'll spare you the photographic "details."
I know that different rewards work for different kids...my friends have successfully used dollar store toys, stickers, candy, high-fives, and my favorite so far: a chance to blow out a birthday candle! The only thing I'm certain of with potty training is that every kid learns at their own pace and is motivated by different rewards. Here's what's worked for us.
Our little 2.5-yr-old has been going "#1" wonderfully for months, but #2 has been a challenge, and I just couldn't seem to catch him in the act soon enough. It became clear to me early on that this was going to be the biggest challenge, and call for the biggest reward. One afternoon last week it must have clicked. I think that all the planets had aligned just right at that moment...the mounting excitement of our promises to go pick out a new train toy, the fact that I got out the little potty chair again so he wouldn't have to stray too far from his toys to go, "the Poopsmith Song" blaring on the stereo, the tummy full of food, and the favorite pair of Thomas undies we didn't want to get dirty. When he ran to me saying he had to go potty about 5 minutes after he had just gone, I knew it was something more...the "movement" we've all been waiting for!!
I figure, if I'm going to spend any money on a reward for him, I'd like it to be something that will really last, that he can keep and play with for years to come, as a reminder of his "accomplishment." We had a few wooden Thomas cars already, and I knew I had a box of Brio wood tracks stashed away from a garage sale for after we move, so I thought maybe individual engines would make a good reward for a little while.
wooden Thomas engines I had found at garage sales for $0.25 cents were actually around $10-$25 brand new. Sheesh! The average accessories ran from $40-$60. This poop thing was going to get expensive fast.
After enjoying the ability to roam free in the train department and check out everything, we decided on an off-brand but well made wooden track set for the big first poop. Mommy was sold on the fact that the 50 piece set cost less than one Thomas accessory, and it would work with both the Brio and Thomas tracks and trains. Sammy was sold the minute he saw that a bridge was involved.
Aaah...enjoying the fruits of his labor! I wanted to make sure that we'd have a repeat success the second time, and Sammy couldn't hardly wait to go again when we told him he could not only get a new train car for his track, but could go to Choo Choo Bob's to pick it out.
Choo Choo Bob's and back. It's much farther than our local Toys-r-us but is a fun destination in itself whether you buy anything or not.
Emily and carried her up to the front counter to pay. Emily has gone EVERYWHERE with us since.
I've already purchased a couple more trains online cheaper, so we don't go broke buying trains. I'm thinking I'll give him a couple more engines, then gradually ease off on the rewards to things he loves that are cheaper or don't cost, like a movie night with popcorn (at home), a trip to the splash pad, a phone call to Gramma, a walk to the park, a cartoon, a game on the iPhone, etc. We'll see how it goes...so far we're at 4-for-4 in the toilet... knock on wood train tracks... and hope to keep the momentum "going!"
Got any tips or tricks that have worked for you little one when it comes to going "#2?" Please do share! Different things work for different kids and I'm sure we all could use more ideas...I know I'll probably need some other motivation for Toby when he gets to this age!
So today I decided that we are going to earn our way to the other rewards that I have stashed away with a chart, so that he has to "go" a few times to earn something, adding a little more to the challenge. We know he can do it now, so can he do it regularly? We call this "the hippo chart," because when he went for the first time he said, "Mommy, I made a hippo!!" We'll just leave it at that. ;-)
James engine (currently in the mail and on the way from Amazon), and 3 more times after that he gets the Harvey crane engine (also on the way from Amazon!) So far he's got an every-other-day schedule going so this should last a good couple weeks.
The minute I explained how the chart works, I saw it click in his head. He immediately took the chart and ran to the potty chair to work on his next "hippo" so he could get to the station. While he sat there he pointed to each square, saying "this one, this one, this one, then James!" I was pretty amazed that he caught on so fast. I wasn't sure a 2 year old could really grasp the whole sticker chart thing but when put in his choo-choo terms, he got it right away!
This is something anyone could do, just by drawing tracks or some other imagery (squares, circles, a road, whatever) to represent each "square", and you can glue images along the way to represent the rewards, whatever they may be for your child (google images works great for this!). Anyway, I thought I'd share this update as it seems to be a great motivator so far!